Chronicles of a HeadCase

I have found in my life that many people find it easier, to have faith and believe in a supreme being that cannot be proven until today, than to trust another human being. It is a strange observation, especially when I start to feel that trust and faith are almost the same thing, except people do the latter without doubt and do not feel betrayed if faith does not follow through. Take the 2 scenarios below for example:-

scenario 1) Lisa prays hard day and night that Tom will ask her to the dance. Tom doesn’t. Lisa remains a staunch believer in her God and her faith perseveres.

scenario 2) Tom said he will take Lisa to the dance. Tom ends up going with Gina. Lisa will remember for the rest of her life what Tom did and will never ever fully trust him again (might have trouble trusting all guys after that).

They say it takes a lot of courage to have faith. But it seems strange to me because, hearing someone saying “I trust you” is so much more powerful than “I have faith in you”. “I have faith in you” sounds like the odds are against you, I will pray for a miracle. hahaha.

But on the other hand, faith and trust both can be truly elating experiences that can totally change your perspective, give you a positive paradigm shift and allow you to grow further as a person.

I don’t have to get into faith, there are many religious websites out there.

In the case of trust, if you can… trust someone without doubt, suspicioun and fear that they will betray it. I promise, you will feel released, relieved and experience an ultimate calm. Because life can go on for you, without having to constantly worry if he/she is going to get drunk and have sex with someone else. Yes yes, you will feel betrayed if and when he/she betrays your trust, but he/she will almost never earn your trust back again. Trust should be given, and it is very very hard to earn back. Forgiveness is a whole different ball game that I’ll get into next time. But I mean, even in faith things don’t always work out the way we want it… how can trust in another human being do any better that faith in the gods?  So I say, live and let go, or forever hold on to the shadows of fear and doubt. You choose…

(Dedicated to MissDayne who requested an article about Trust)